Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer replied, “Maybe.”
When we ask the question why, we are inquiring about the causes of things. It is my hypothesis that those of who are neuro-deviant have a special relationship with causality, and I think it has a profound effect on the way we experience our world and the way we spend our metabolic resources.
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is still not widely known and is even more poorly understood but, in my clinical experience, globally experienced by those of us who have adhd.
As I have worked with clients over these past five years, it has become clear to me that the foundational determinant of well-being is our relation to the (our) future.
Which is heavier, wearing a 25kg backpack and having to walk around with it all day every day or not knowing if you and the people in your life are going to be safe—in whatever way you want to conceptualize "safe"—on a day-to-day basis?
What this suggests is that when there are not sufficient rules and laws and conventions, one's imagination is completely ungoverned. And an ungoverned—"fantastic" in Kierkegaard's words—mind ultimately leads one away from oneself... towards the sickness unto death that is despair.
The wellbeing or illness of people is a reflection and product of the society in which they live. It’s true for rats, and its true for people.
Perfectionism causes personal and professional problems for perfectionists themselves and those around them. And, in a bitter twist of irony, it turns out to be an inefficient and ineffective way of producing good work with any consistency.
It is my contention that Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a corrupt phrase and name. It is a collection of prejudices. Its very existence has prevented scores of people from understanding the truth about themselves, namely that they have adhd.
There exists in every person with adhd a 'no' lying in wait. I simply call it oppositionalism. To be oppositional means to stand against something.
